The Nabi Effect & More

Just got out of Quarantine for 7 days and it wasn't that bad. I studied my Korean and talked to the kiddos most of the time. They are the best and I enjoy seeing them happy even if I am not there.

That little butterfly of a two year old is slowing showing her personality and she is a feisty on. She like to be in control and yelling now. She still doesn't cry a lot which I guess is a good thing, communicates a whole lot more. The 5 yr old is adjusting well to Kindergarten. He struggles with sitting all day but he likes to learn. His teachers says that he brightens up the room.  They like living with their dad. I have had consistent and frustrating conversations with different people who don't understand how I can let them live with their father. The way I see if that I didn't create them myself so he can raise them also, I wish we could do it together but it didn't end up that way.

Lets talk about my teenagers. The 14 yr old, my oldest and first born is quiet but deadly. He behaves but subtlety resist. I have to catch him in the wrong or he would seem like the perfect child. The 13 yr old.- will do anything i ask him with a price, he is always trying to negotiate his price on everything. I started giving him an allowance because he is having an excellent school year. I just wished he talked nicer, but he likes to mimic his father a lot and has a hard time understanding what is offensive and what is not. I believe this is due to the fact that we talk so different and I think about every word that comes out of my mouth. I have tried to teach this but to no success. I believe that this is due to the fact that outside of the house it is not something that is corrected and a lot of the youth and young adults talk this way. Lets talk about my 12 yr old. I won't call her my problem child but she gives me a good run for my money. She is really smart but the worries about things like weight, be pretty and fitting in. She is a beautiful girl with a bright personality. But she is pretty nasty when dealing with her peers. I don't know if they start it first or not but I hear some of the things she says and its very mean.

The reason I am sharing this is because I don't want anyone to think I am the perfect parent. Everything that I am sharing with the world and other parents is based on what I have learn as a parent myself and also in the 20 yrs of working with Teenagers with my father. Things that I use on the regular basis, to get there I am now. I'm never going to tell anyone that it is easy but with consistency and redirection we can turn around a lot of the behaviors that not just the children and teenagers have but the way we adults treat each other.